feat(contacts): add pending/accepted counts to contact span metadata

Phase 530 platform diagnostics for contacts.request/accept/decline.

Co-authored-by: Cursor <[email protected]>

index.js

@@ -1266,11 +1266,15 @@ class PearcordPlatform extends EventEmitter {
       if (!this.contacts) await this._joinContactsMesh()
       if (!this.contacts) throw new Error('contacts unavailable')
       const row = await this.contacts.sendRequest({ peerUserId, peerDisplayName })
+      const pendingOut = await this.contacts.listPendingOutgoing()
+      const accepted = await this.contacts.listAccepted()
       span.end({
         spanKind: 'contacts.request',
         status: row?.status || null,
         peerUserId: peerUserId || null,
-        peerDisplayNameLen: String(peerDisplayName || '').trim().length
+        peerDisplayNameLen: String(peerDisplayName || '').trim().length,
+        pendingOutCount: pendingOut.length,
+        acceptedCount: accepted.length
       })
       return row
     } catch (err) {
@@ -1291,11 +1295,15 @@ class PearcordPlatform extends EventEmitter {
     try {
       if (!this.contacts) throw new Error('contacts unavailable')
       const row = await this.contacts.acceptRequest(peerUserId)
+      const accepted = await this.contacts.listAccepted()
+      const pendingIn = await this.contacts.listPendingIncoming()
       span.end({
         spanKind: 'contacts.accept',
         status: row?.status || null,
         peerUserId: peerUserId || null,
-        accepted: row?.status === 'accepted' || row?.status === 'friend'
+        accepted: row?.status === 'accepted' || row?.status === 'friend',
+        acceptedCount: accepted.length,
+        pendingInCount: pendingIn.length
       })
       return row
     } catch (err) {
@@ -1316,10 +1324,14 @@ class PearcordPlatform extends EventEmitter {
     try {
       if (!this.contacts) throw new Error('contacts unavailable')
       const row = await this.contacts.declineRequest(peerUserId)
+      const pendingIn = await this.contacts.listPendingIncoming()
+      const pendingOut = await this.contacts.listPendingOutgoing()
       span.end({
         spanKind: 'contacts.decline',
         peerUserId: peerUserId || null,
-        declined: true
+        declined: true,
+        pendingInCount: pendingIn.length,
+        pendingOutCount: pendingOut.length
       })
       return row
     } catch (err) {